Nick and Bonnie -Part 3

This is not the story of the men who lost,This is the one who will win in life..Even to love..He knows how to win..and he's handsome ,awesome and hard-working.
He has clear set of goals-But has different distractions..

Nick however did some week chatted to Betty.It was like Bonnie was a memory.

Bonnie was a character in HTGAWM and Betty in Archie's weird mystery and Nick in HIMYM small part.

August month came.After 3 months of no chatting,she invited him to her marriage on Aug 5th.Gladly the project was tough,and he could not get a leave,but luckily for him he had 3 days holiday coming up on 8th and he knew Betty was coming on 10th..He decided to go for 5 days.He brought her a watch and a wine🍾

It's like a bad control-He invited him and he just came after 4 days.Though Betty could not come to her home,he was not desp..

He went to see Bonnie and spent some quality time with her,He saw her paintings,friended her brother.He chatted with Betty on whatssap video,He felt happiness..Saw her father who,came to his house for vacation..He just spent some time chatting.. Nick sent his mom and Aunt to her marriage and he posted the story in Instagram..

Bonnie was married to a software engineer,senior position guy.Nick thought he had just one expresion on his face..He had some deformation in his hand,but she was ok with that.
Even though it should have been about Nick..This is how Bonnie's story was ended.She z gonna move to Bangalore from Punjab.She z gonna have his children ..The love for her to Nick was sister's, Mother's,Friend's ..Such things just happens once in a lifetime..And this is not I wanna marry u type..It's just -Stay connected forever type..Nick can't express it..Betty was nowhere near Bonnie..But she would have that with her sometime..

Nick and Bonnie-Part 2

He heard a song about mother coz it reminded of how she feels.She changed her status to mom.She changed her insta name to Bonnie Emmy Efron

,Emmy being her mom's blame who died.She found a match.She stopped giving Nick replies.For Nick the world felt so small.His work felt so small.Betty felt so small.Or it may be his Karma.Nick was less attached to his parents,even though he visited there..he spent much times travelling with friends.For a girl he have not seen,it affected his life.She stopped giving him messages..3 months they were big friends on WhatsApp. Relations made on social medias dies on social media..He already had left this social media long time ago.

He found out what this was,which he realised from his follower-The monk.Its GHOSTING.

Nick thought he was the one who experienced it first,in the world.This word was already been coined in 2011 and was polular in 2015-16,and was included in the collins english dictionary,since 2015. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ghosting_(relationships)

During his dance classes,he lost his Romance,where he lost his dancing skills.He master scolded him for his lack of concentration.He himself felt as a failure.What something ,that could be a possiblity could end up into nothingness. Nick did not know whom to blame.But he was advised not to blame himself. He never gave that space to anyone like this ever before.Time passed. He messaged her once a week,And eventually it passed out.He felt weird. He felt left out.He knew,he would/might have a good relation with Betty.But was afraid to attempt it,because it was weird for him.He once drunk messaged,and messaged Betty that she looked good in a particular dress. Waaw,they got in sting of good moments.But he got scared,even though the liked her.He will always feel weird. He found out that Betty read his blog. He liked that.Actually he found out because of his miscommunication with her.

He spend his days by 5 things:

• He was advised to work beyond his scope by his uncle
• He watched Roadies-and wanted entry into it.
• He exercised-PUSHED HIS LIMITS
• He danced to get his romance back
• He prepared for competitive exams.

If there was 1% chance,she would not like Betty with Nick,Nick would not take it.She was just damn special to him.Even though he tried to forget.he had trigger points.

• Mom songs
• Dentists

Once Nick got drunk and  messaged Betty.He messaged about  how good she looked.He thought she slept,but she  did not.He messaged back and they went into a long conversation.Until it was too late and Nick said Bye.Nick messaged Betty after his work ,ready for his next rejection.He messaged her daily at night,if she has not seen he would delete those.Many days he did not get any reply  .But can't blame her,he messaged late and would delete those.He could not message at day.He was relaxed only at night.He decided to quit it..but one day she messaged back.Then one day again he found strength and was gonna confess about his crush.But that day turned out to be her birthday and she was home.And he decided not to make anything work for her.He knew it may not be love,it may be infactuation.

And one by one,Betty too became a distraction and both the conversations faded in March.At May,he was only focussed on his brothers marriage.He liked his brother and wanted to only chill.He prepared dance and finished.It was only cool..

•Lacked precision

√Lacked emotions

®Lacked smoothness

He was busy thinking about himself about his brothers marriage.He drank some scotch with his brothers and bro's frnds.The next day he got chicken pox..He wanted to attend his bro s marriage but he was restricted.

He was crying as he could not attend his brothers marriage..Day 1,2,3 we're his worst.He felt lonely and was full on fruits .

After 10 days of loneliness,he messaged her and deleted it..

Hoping she didn't see it,he put a status and she replied that status..and he started talking again..He went back to New work and It continued till..May,June ,July.

NICK 'N' BONNIE-THE Unanswered story

Bonnie just came into his life when he was sick. Now the thing as any normal love story, Bonnie took cared of Nick and nurtured him back to health. But No, Nick had had an impact on my Right Arm and he contacted her coz he thought she was a specialist, No she was a Dentist. Bonnie had not seen Nick for 5 -6 years.And that too they were just Instagram friends. She just adviced him,which medicines to take.Her medicines did not cure him but they became good friends soon.

Nick, a 7-6AM employee in Tesla Motors who had completed engineering in Automobile engineering, IIT Hyderabad.He has been working for Tata motors and did a six-month course from the University of Michigan. From there under the recommendation of his uncle ,and the course he was able to work in Tesla motors. He has been working for past 2 years.His uncle was one of the most important person in the company.He held a reputed position in the company and has strengthen and worked it for past 15 years.The company now tripled its  size than ever before.Nick's boss (even though was an asshole, who has good ideas and his timings were perfect in every stage of his life that he became a manager,where same people who came after him still struggle to become seniors associates) do cared Nick and wanted motivated him to go along. Those two people were the most influential people in his workspace.

Nick lived in a bed space in the outskirts area known worse for cleanliness.But that place is known for food as Nick loved eating out.It was also the place near his uncle's Apartment which was cleaner,and he should visit there weekly. Amid his position,he cared for his people in India.And go there Thrice an year.Even though he was tight in his money and expenses.He cared for his home and he enjoyed with his friends at home


Bonnie was a good and beautiful girl some knowledge in medicines,and he liked that fact.When Nick first asked about Bonnie about his arm pain,She asked him how it happened and suggested him medicines.The things was just because of an injury,he fell during his exercise.Even if she was an dentist,she knew about medicines, which impressed him and was willing to help. Nick's arm didn't had any effect because he needed rest.It was during heavy work,and constant use of mobile that happened. And it was chronic pain. It took 3 months to even reduce the pain.

But there started a bond of friendship. Nick called her"Didi" meaning for elder sister in Hindi. But he didn't know that they were of the same age. He asked her birthday, she refused to answer. He then checked his profile in Facebook and realized this fact.He was so embarrassed by this fact that he spend that whole day laughing at his misunderstanding about her.

After a while  of chatting,he asked if she wish any proposal from UK? She denied.She was either dumb or was unsure.But it was for the best.She wanted to become a doctor and maybe she was not smart for a doctor is what Nick think now. During their chat she told him that.But she was hardworking.Nick felt nice to even talk to her.Well she was gonna get married soon. And there came a proposal,which she said she liked that guy.Bonnie told Nick that she told that to this guy-John.John was a software engineer and a frequent tripper.She directly told him that she is not gonna,spend on dowry.These type of things are not supposed to be said on 1st date.What impression does that leaves you.Hearing to this , Nick called her stupid for doing that.

She was upset at first,then he made her realize what she had done. Anyways Nick liked her attitude.Nick told her Dowry is necessary for covering up at least  marriage expense. In Alux.com and if you research about Indians,they do spend a  lot on marriages. Nick an open genuine girl.Despite his previous friendship has always given him trouble,he chose to give this a try. 'Bonnie is nice.My guts told me'he believed.

There came a chance,when Nick and Bonnie could meet-A single day. Bonnie came to US,but Nick was surprised. But in long drive away.Nick would have visited if he had driving licences.And Bonnie came along,so had no idea how to meet him too.And at that same time,Nick went to India, Punjab.His own land for his brother's engagement.Leaving that aside,he could not meet her.He asked her to visit an important firework there.But she could not.She asked him to visit.Then there came a day when he returned and she still was there.The day he arrived back,she would leave  the next day.But when he arrived,it was physically impossible.And she asked him to stay.Nick asked her to look a job in US and meet and marry a guy.

Even though Bonnie was sad,Nick was little happy.He was able to connect with her.He realized he could tell about his ex.He told how his friend Kate, ignored him.How Kate just was too busy.She did not took his calls,did not reply his messages.He expressed his sadness.She also expressed her sadness about her college mate boyfriend.That they were known couples who had to break up.There came a point when Nick was unaware of the fact that Bonnie's mom died.He don't know why he asked.She said it would bring tears in her eye.After that Nick would have felt pity if it was 3 years ago,which happened to him on collage.Nick also revelaed about his crush named Nathalie,who also was a dentist like Bonnie.But he felt,not to her.He felt sad instead.He wanted to hug her and say-Bonnie,I will not leave you ever.I will be your bro for life.But he wanted to look her in the eye and say her,so that he will understand its not just a whatssap crap.There was much more to it.

Time passed by.Nick's best friend found him confused and happy while messaging. He asked him about his happiness and promoted him that things could work out between the two.I told I like her heart.But she was gonna marry now and Nick had time.So without a second thought, she is infact her lost sister.He do had feelings for her which came by that fact when she said her mom was not with her anymore.Before he used to feel pity,now he is feeling proud about how strong she is.She needed channelization as per Nick.She took care of her sister. Nick also told him that Bonnie's sister Betty was cuter and hotter.Just was confused about her character was.

BETTY Nick and Bonnie only contacted through whatssap. Both Bonnie and Betty was very attached to the family.Betty used to visit her frequently from US where she was studying for BBA. Once Bonnie sent her pics ( Betty) to Nick.She looked gorgeous in those pics .There was both their pics.Nick told Betty looked nice and Bonnie was not that great to trigger some emojis.Betty too was Nick's fb and insta friend.

Once again there were some conversation about her with Bonnie,he checked out her insta pics.She told him that she was 5ft 3 inch. And Nick thought she was taller than Bonnie. Bonnie was 5ft 6 inch.Nick was match with Betty with age and height.But he feel more connected with Bonnie because of age and attitude..Late one day in insta Nick happen to go through her Blog.Nick was flat.Just impressed by her talent.He thought she was just another fb and insta maniac.She was much more than he imagined.There was a blog about rights of Lesbians.He found that she put her soul into it and did not care what others thought about it.Also she was a bit feminist.That infact was ok, but need to know how much her her degree to it was.She had a bit of activist in her blood.Bonnie told she was passionate about Corporates,But Nick think otherwise.


He also found a similarity to their name. His name is Nick meaning Greek god Zeus. Betty whose meaning meant of , Danae.He also has re-wrote his blog and edited its contents and uploaded on insta.Everything was fine.He had good reason to engage to her.First her looks, height, secondly her age. Third her name similarity.That seem to naive,the third reason. Forth,the connection with her sister. Fifth,he saw Betty in his favorite actress- Angelina Jolly.

• Physical Appearance
• Impression-Art and writing
• Name-matched
• Age
• Her sister Bonnie was his friend/Sister
• She looked like her favorite Actress-Angelina Jolly

But even that approach came to a stop. Bonnie started maintaining as distance from Nick.Nick was sad, because there were not any.He wanted to reveal his crush to Bonnie,but she put him in a position where he could not even talk.He just felt sad.For him,Bonnie was important than Betty.Because that was his connection.She did nothing.Just was busy with her marriage.Nick and Bonnie's connection became blurred.Nick was confused about why she was avoiding him.He talked everything to her.He knew her weakness-Mom, Job. She might have been fighting her own battles.But Nick just found out that this social media had given him just pain. He just uninstalled instagram and he could not uninstall WhatsApp-Because of his job-related stuff.He could not approach Betty, was small when he realised that he could not even approach Bonnie. They just stopped.Was there any reason? Priorities..


Nick once told her that her silence hurted him.
It's like punishing him.She told she was busy with her marriage and she was busy.But her silence is what eats him than her rudeness. If she was rude, it mattered less. Her silence mattered the hell out of him.It just broke his heart.Not because he had anything to do with Betty.He had everything to do with Bonnie.

He just had no idea why she left him.It reminded him of how his ex-sister (made friend)Kate left her. She also was too important to him once upon a time.It reminded him of her.But that was another scenario. There was too much-built silence which were left unanswered.Nick felt alone and cried. Things that do not kill you make you stronger.He could not feel hatred towards her.He felt hatred for every other-His ex,His ex-sis,his one sis he had now,but could not towards her and don't even want to towards her.He could not talk to her..coz for him it was a matter of both love and self-respect, which were there equally.

Will he solve it? Will he lose his self-respect? Will he lose himself? Or will he lose Bonnie's connection? Hope that just would eat him daily? Or will he be bigger than this?

(Part 2 coming soon)

MARCH RESOLUTION- ALL MEN SHOULD COOK

COOKING-ALL MEN SHOULD COOK

What does history has to do with cooking?

History has much to deal with food rather than cooking.Homo erectus (The stage we were before humans) was cooking their food as early as 500,000 years ago(0.5 million years ago). Evidence for the controlled use of fire in the beginning of 400,000 years ago has been verified.They found that cooked food has more nutrition and calories than uncooked.

There are mainly 4 kinds of eaters
1.One who eats to remove hunger without feelings but don't overeat.
2.Second the one, who eat to satisfy the food and himself, at-least has a feeling  and tends to overeat
3.The diet-Y one who diets,very conscious about what they eat to maintain their body.Maybe satisfied but fear running throughout and planning requirements just tire them out.
4.There come a 4th kind of eater,one who just eats to satisfy his mental needs rather than hunger. It could be the way the food is made,the ingredients,the presentation,The aroma which call all individually or cumulatively leads to satisfaction.Just a bite and they are satisfied.Eating more of it wont be a problem,They know when to eat and when not to.

All are winners,but 4th type of person is believed to be ultimate winner.He choose quality,quantity.They know when to eat and when to stop.A real chef determine the quality of the food in just one bite.They are mentally happy by the food they eat.

I write not to enforce a career in cooking,Culinary art which deals with  Preparation,Cooking & Presentation.But its much more.The problems associated with hotels and messes are many:
1.Quantity-They provide more than what we need.It makes us fat
2.Quality-They provide less than what we require.It makes us sick and unhealthy
3.Choices of raw ingredients-We choose the vegetables,because we buy it.We can choose,if we want carrot more for the eyes or amla more for the hairs.
4.Money of course.You can save upto 2-3 times your cost

My inspiration to cooking comes from a variety of factors-Kozhikode food-Beef Biriyani(Rehamath),Pune tea,Mutton Kadai,Ramsey Gordon and of course the time when there is no "money".But my ULTIMATE INSPIRATION is from my mom,She being a teacher just plans and makes sure the whole family is fed and My Dad who knows to cook in his bachelor days and applied after his marriage.He makes me food,even after I graduated.I realised that it is manly of a man to cook.

Men should cook.He should try out and explore.Its sexy of a man to cook.It is even shown in a survey of 1000 women in USA  and the same is applicable everywhere.We have seen that Chef is disgraced everywhere,But he is a great person.He can satisfy ones body and mind just like any woman because eating satisfaction is just as important as sexual satisfaction and vice versa.The first bite of any good food is just worth to remember.I still remember the first time i had Shawarma from  Falafil restaurant in Sharjah,UAE. It was just Magic.But maybe not as people remember their first kiss.

WHAT COOKING IS:

1.Cooking starts with cleaning

• Kitchen should be clean and dry
• Separate arrangement for plastic waste,Organic waste
• Fridge should be clean weekly
• Clean the food-Fruits
• Clean the utensils with warm water if possible.

2.Buy the best food from the market.Go for LOCALLY AVAILABLE diets rather than international,exotic fruits like-Kiwi and avacado. Buy what is available in India.
3.Cutting,chopping,grinding,shredding,rolling are the actions involved in cooking.  Cutting a fish,see how Gordon Ramsey do it.You got to master in that.Chopping is an art.There are style and technique involved.
4.Next stage is mixing of food with spices,sauses before baking or boiling-Called 'marinating', 'mixing'-Which can be done manually or via tools like a mixer,.
5.Next stage depends upon what to do for ultimate cooking-Roasting,Boiling,Deep frying,Grilling,Baking etc.
6.Selection of cookware:

•  Worst to cook with- PTFE(teflon),PFOA-Cancer,Granite
• Moderate-Aluminium,Low shine-Stainless steel-YES GOOD
• Good-Cast iron,brass and bronze,Safest-CLAY COOKWARE

I do not aim to reveal what to cook and when to cook and how to cook.I am no expert.All the recipes ,techniques are available in Youtube-Indian,Afghan,Italian...What i want to voice is that Man can cook and he should-weather it is barbecue or steak or grill .Its not just about survival.Its the feeling after feeding someone and they say-Arre Waah!!!He should make a dish worthy of remembering him.The dish has became his identity.One of the bucket list by any cool man would be to cook a signature dish,with proper techniques.And it infact make him more manly-cooking and washing dishes!!!

EVOLUTION

EVOLUTION

EVOLUTION=CHANGE OVERTIME(23/6/18)

PRESTAGE(24/6/18)
ABIOGENESIS: Abiogenesis is a Hypothesis where life is formed from non-life
RNA-based life may not have been the first life to exist. Terrestrial origins – organic molecule synthesis driven by impact shocks or by other energy sources (such as UV light, redox coupling, or electrical discharges; e.g., Miller's experiments)

HUMAN STAGES(18/6/18)

1.An organic single-celled organism from abiogenesis-As a form of reaction&impact of minerals, lightning, but from the water.
2. It multiplies into many as a form of maintaining stability
3.A spherical creature-In water-An amoeba, Jellyfish(no eye)
4. Eye evolved-Stream lined shape, Then Fish
5.Fins which helped em swim-<It took 3 billion years>
6. As poisoning prevailed in the Lungs evolved to breathe outside
7.<350 million years ago>-Reptile
8. To survive the heat-Thick skin
9.Dinosaurs and Large creatures
10.Mating and offspring-To protect eggs-<fear from Dino>, protecting the offspring, Around <200-250 mill years ago>
11. Extinction of Dinosaur due to Meteor created dust, created clouds, Decay of plants, Starvation(65 Million years ago)
12. Rat  and Bugs survived
13.Food became difficult-Learnt to climb-Learnt to walk on 2
14.Brain evolved-Homini in(Hominin ae &Gorilla)
15. Hominin ae (Our ancestors)-Men&Chimpanzee(PAN)(our closest)->13 million years ago
16. Hominids (HOMINID TIMELINE-first modern ape)-(at 10 million)
17.Homo eructus(2 milion years ago)
18. Homo sapiens(0.2 million years ago ie 2 lack)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_human_evolution_fossils


CAUSE OF EVOLUTION(8/7/18)

• Genetic modification-Survival
• Mutation
• Habitats
• Environment-Sun radiation,Pollution

PROOFS OF EVOLUTION(4/7/18)

1.Fishes found that can give birth and lay egg(AN INTERMEDIATE)-has infections

2.Live birth of 3 toed skinks

• It is a LIZARD found in Australia
• The lizard has attracted scientific attention due to its dual reproduction habits 
• Yellow bellied 3 toed skink s found to give birth in the cold
• In high elevation some skinks are found to lay egg in the cold-extra calcium seretion that protect egg(>1000ft)
• It is PREDICTED to separate into different species
• INTERMEDIATE-In low-elevation populations from northern and southern in New South Wales exhibit short-period oviparity, an intermediate between viviparity and typical oviparous behaviors
• There has found to be the difference in the thickness of eggshells in different biomes.

                                          Distribution of the Yellow-bellied three-toed Skink


3.Darwin's finches(bird)

     Darwin's finches are one of the break event that leads to this discovery. In the island of galagapos, Darwin has observed evolutionary changes.

• Beak was suited for cracking large nuts.
• Seen here is adapted radiation of finch A. (Geospiza magnirostris) into three other species of finches found on the Galapagos Islands. 
• Due to the absence of other species of birds, the finches adapted to new niches. 
• The finches beaks and bodies changed allowing them to eat certain types of foods such as nuts, fruits, and insects.

1. Geospiza magnirostris
2. Geospiza parvula
3. Certhidea olivacea
4. Geospiza fortis

               Behaviour

• The finches are primarily granivorous, 
• but euphoniines include considerable amounts of arthropods and berries in their diet,
•  Hawaiian honeycreepers evolved to utilize a wide range of food sources, including nectar. 
• The diet of Fringillidae nestlings includes a varying amount of small arthropods. 

4.Italian wall lizard

• In 1971,10 wall lizard were introduced in ISLAND OF POD MR'CARU
• They were left for decades and observed.
• Shifted from INSECTIVOROUS to  GIANT HERBIVOROUS
• Island Lizard became larger
• Developed Cecal valve muscle-SEPARATES SMALL&LARGE INTESTINE

FEBRUARY MOTIVATION-MARATHON

Running a marathon is one of the most challenging and aspiring event in my life. It is an achievement and would desire to pursue more of it, in my coming days. I started my preparation-in Dec 2017,2 months prior to my actual running on FEB 2018, Calicut Marathon organized by IIM Kozhikode. I did a little research on Marathons, types, strategy etc. Here are the tips for long distance running.
1. Land on the front part of the leg, LIKE in contemporary dance and then back part. And the body should move forward and leg a little back like you are about to fall

2. Run as straight as possible. Don't incline your legs and your hands too should be Straight. Any bent will provide air resistance to your directional running.

3. Increase the lung capacity by breathing exercises. Blowing in more, deep breathe slowly, hold for 10 sec, exhale slowly. This will also calm you and release your stresses. Try to breathe only through Nostrils while running. The other ways to increase breathing capacity are:

• Swimming
• By blowing a set of Balloons
• Controlled breathing
• Trecking/High elevation workout

4. Continuously workout your legs by squats,Leg workouts and stretches, splits. If you have a gym then it's easy. Else do the workout at home-Knee raises, Situps, Squats, Stair climbing. (I used to climb stairs as a part of my jobs which really helped me)
5. A proper rest should be taken before running.Do not practice on the previous day of your running and don't diet for Marathon. Reward yourself 😊 with ice cream or a  biriyani AFTER running.
6. A snack/ small biscuit pack should be consumed half an hour before running. Sugar drink or energized/normal water can be consumed while running. After coming back-Eat anything you like-You have earned it.
7. Slowly increase your limits:1st 2 days:2 km, next 2 days:4 km, and gradually progress it every 4-6 days and within a month you can nail it. Coming back from a run, Do squats and abs workout.

8. Push your limits and find that X Factor-That factor can be achieved only by hard work, practice, and consistency.


How Kenyans and Ethiopians excelled the marathon:

• Thin calves-Kenyans and Ethiopians have thin calves on their body.They are already born with it. The thrust they impart from the ground to their feet muscle is less.
• Lungs adapted to their altitude and heat-Usually the live in hot condition and high altitudes. Mutation is the key in Evolution.They adapt to this hot,high altitude conditions.
• Lifetyle-They are good runners. They are active and their nation is very poor. Walking is a part of their culture, rather than use of vehicles.

The experience:

• I was already competing with my weight loss, I decided why not push my limits more?
• I had the Samsung health app, which counted how much steps I took. As I was working in 'Site' I usually walk about 15000-20000 steps daily.
• I read about marathon as the muscles in the leg is always on Compression. You have to breathe in more oxygen and stretch your legs whenever there is a problem. You would have hydration problem. Water dries out from the body-We should Learn to conserve it. You do have to finish the race.
• I just kept on running for a month and practiced.
• I  started by the expectation to complete the marathon, Me, Bro in Law and my sister were the participants.
•  Sister had already participated in the marathon, 2 times. Even I thought I wrote everything above I never ran 10km in my life.
• In life, We have to face 'Tests' before the 'Lessons'.

• On the day of the race-Bro and I ate a Bun and black tea 5 AM in the morning.
• The race stated @ 6 AM in Calicut Beach and I clocked the timing of 1.02 hour. (It could have been better if I had not stopped for selfies 😂 on the way)
• While running, Music and some good happy thoughts keep motivating me to keep going.THE WILL TO KEEP GOING IN LIFE IS THE ULTIMATE SUCCESS OF THE MARATHON.

JANUARY RESOLUTION-FITNESS-A WAY OF LIFE

                 FITNESS-A WAY OF LIFE

There is the new year 2018. As a new year resolution, I wanted to decrease weight and eat healthy for the month of January. Fitness has not only to do with physique and fitness, but also with mental health.And my 2019 is to really get the best physique ever before my bro's wedding.

Back in 2016 May, I went to a lot of depression(like anger, break up, finishing college,getting job and not applying for it,preparing for CAT and leaving midway etc) .I went out to a local gym and said i wanted a 6 pack.I took all my anger and frustration on the dumbbells and weights and pull-ups.. The intention of people going to the gym is different. Some work out to lose weight, some to gain it. Some to maintain fitness other to counter depression. Then after the workouts in the gym gave me a positive and healthy mind in my day to day life, I decided to care and shape my body. I started to control my diets as well. "The workout is my GOD and GYM is my temple."

Another inspirational story is about my cousin, who is of 170cm, is working out for his marriage and he is able to deliver it. Love motivated him, or the day that he wanted to be the star-Thinking about that day too may have motivated him. I maintained my love towards sports as well. I also met new people, made new friends. Many were educated men, rich, poor, students. After some while, People started to leave the gym, as some got transferred, some became lazy-Priorities changed. Now after my initial days and time, Wounds healed, so the attitude towards the gym. At last, when the cost and days of workout started to wither me, my attitude towards gym just turned from anger management to a leisure center. There was neither dedication nor motivation to work out.I stopped Gym in August.

One year,3 months  passed by,In 2017 After one year later, I went to Dubai came my affection towards food. I drank Pepsi, fried foods,KFC,Biriyani,Rice, Avocado juice, processed fruit juice and turned fat. I became fat-74 kg in Dec 31,2017. People started mocking me.But when i started to look bad in my pics, is what actually motivated me to reduce weight.Also my uncle talks a lot about carbs and workout.He ,once upon a time had 100 kg,now he is just 85kg.


From Jan 1st onwards,I cut rice, ate egg whites and I started cardio workout daily.I watched weight losing exercise on YouTube and applied in my unhealthy life.After a month,I made results and  everyone very proud of my achievement.For me,it was not just  a matter of pride,it was also a matter of self confidence.There is a X factor involved apart from this routine-Discipline and consistency.I did not gave up.Only thing i gave up was sugar and ice cream.The more discipline you learn the better fitness freak you will be.I suggest having a personal trainer with experience and full in-depth knowledge of exercise and human anatomy, diet plan.And don't go with extreme unless you are a pro.

In terms of number: I just changed from 74 kg to 70 kg in 1 month then again decreased to 68 my standard weight,before i came to Dubai-6 Kg in a span of just 2 months. My height is 168, My weight is 68. The difference between them=100 resembles a good ideal body.Find body mass index, available in a simple google search.Slightly overweight should be the character of a goof fitness freak and man,because even if you stop there are possibility you gain weight and motivates you to workout again.

I tried to maintain the gym nowadays. After starting back in Jan 2018, I went regularly, then I tried running and other fitness methods. Even though I don't go regularly-i never left it and I am not going to. Also after work and before going to the gym,I apply a good deo and do eat half a a banana?banana fry 1 hour before. You have to keep the body clean and non-smelly. Use Body wash after the gym to remove body odor-(Nivea blueberry, Adidas)  nice perfumed brands in body washes.

Other than maintaining the body, I tried maintaining my Core with many core workouts. Planks are one of the most important exercise for maintaining core. Core is the most important part of your body,which helps you to do all physical activities. maintain posture,Sit and stand,balance while dancing.It is needed through out your life.People are tested based on core strength.It prevents lower back pain also.The purpose of fitness is more than just fitness.It is also to enable us to stay strong by doing what is necessary.


One of the major problems which people face are procrastination and lack of time.If you don't have time-go for five-minute extreme workouts, which is easily available on YouTube .But you have to be a pro in order to do so.And always do warm up before any exercise-From top to bottom.The point is there is always time.Now a days-i don't even go to the gym but I still do workouts and stretches.


HERE ARE THE 8 DIET RULES TO BE FOLLOWED:

1. Drink water throughout the day and always have some on hand when performing this challenge.  
Also make it alkaline for better qualities.
 2. Eat smaller portions and increase no of diets to 5-6 times.(Also take cost and availability into consideration)This increase metabolism and makes you lose weight faster.
                   @ 7.30AM- Milk, a coffee preferably with 30% water and egg whites.
                   @9 AM-Breakfast, 
                   @1PM Lunch-Rice,
                  @ 3-4 PM-Small snack-Banana,Nuts
                   @6.30-1 banana fry(because it was locally available) 
                   @9 PM dinner-preferably small
3. Eliminate refined sugar , fried stuffs and  white flour. 
   X Sugar
   X Maida
   X Salty
   X Fried food
4. 40:30:15:10:5 ratio of vegetables:proteins:Fats:carbs:sugar.Increase protein and veggie intake.
5. Reduce sodas (diet included) and alcohol.
6. Never skip breakfast.Skip Dinner is not an option, but minimizing is one.Take salads-cucumber ,carrot ,tomato and apple and cooked chicken(Non hormonal).
7.  Also make sure that you cheat once a week
8.Remove stress& tensions and  by breathing and meditation .Do dance out,chill,be happy.It do have a great impact on body building.

The 8th point is another X-factor.You got to stop believing you are fat.Just do not care.You need not be over tensed.You gotta enjoy it.If friends left gym,find another source which you can enjoy.Stop procrastination.Instead of being with someone who make you happy.Be someone who makes you happy.

So the 2 main things to cut weight is food  (Which we give in, comprising 70%) and workout (which we give out ,comprising 30%).The determining engine is YOU.You decide if you wanna be 50% efficient or 100% efficient.


EXERCISES TO BE INCOOPERATED:

• Warmup-From head,neck,shulders,arm,leg,wrist,fingers,stomach,Hips,knee,calves,spine and legs
• Squats
• Planks
• Mountain climber
• Push ups-5 varieties
• Pull ups
• Biceps curls
• Bench press
• Side Planks
• Knee raise
• Splits
• Stretches
• Bicycle crunches

Make sure you have a personal-fitness trainer before each workouts

X FACTORS

• Determination-See the target in mind
• Consistency and dicipline
• Motivation
• Care-free attitude, stress-free life chill
• 'YOU' YOURSELF

MOTIVATION FROM CELEBS

Celebs too are now a part of major fitness. Chris Hemsworth,Amir Khan,Christian Bale are actors who have showed the world what losing weight is.It can be controlled.They can be a real inspiration to a lot of people around the world.Even Anuska Shetty-Tamil actress has proved it for her role in Bahubali 2,which became a world blockbuster film.Bale is the ultimate body transformer. He dropped a shocking 63 pounds to play an insomniac in The Machinist (2004). The 6'2" actor reportedly wanted to go as low as 99 pounds, but producers stopped him at 120. A phenomenon not quite seen in India, Vikram changed the scenario with his unique body transformation for the movie ‘I’. The 48 year old Kennedy Vinod Raj (Vikram’s real name) whose regular weight is 82 kilos,  built his body to 120 kilos and then lost his weight dramatically to 55 kilos, for the role of the ‘hunchback’.His weight loss surpassed the Christian Bale Dramatic transformation in a span of 2 years.Chris Hemsworth transformation journey was also incredible for 'In the hearrt of sea',which shows extreme starvation.By the time they left London studios to shoot the on-location shipwrecked scenes, the actors were consuming only 500 calories a day. 

Celebrities like Deepika Padukone, Gol Gagot prove that woman too can take the workout to another level. Workout and diet can still attract you at any age.Gol Gagot worked 8 hours a day for Wonder woman. She worked in Army,loves Rock Climbing, Surfing.Her main diet is protein and green veggies.She was pregnant on her shooting of the film 'Wonder woman'.She was also a part of the Israeli Army. Deepika’s fitness mantra is “Make fitness your way of life”.She plays badminton and is a national champion.The gorgeous lady is very fond of Yoga, asanas, pranayama and meditation.She uses light weight training.She also likes to do dancing to keep her feet and shed her flab.

 

  

YOUTUBE CHANNELS TO FOLLOW FOR GOOD FITNESS AND MOTIVATION:

• Michael Vasquet(Fitness freak)
• Frank Medrano(Fitness freak)
• Chris Heria(Cathelistincs)
• Demi Bagby(Teen Lifter-All round girl who do the extreme )
• FitTuber(A knowledge guy about fitness,food and products)

THE BACHELOR AND THE SOULMATE

Soulmate ,is it a fiction?Or only the one we watch in films.People have different opinions of getting married. But as a matter i see is gender oriented mainly.Girls tends to move away from marriage because they want to enjoy their life and live freely.Boys on the other hand, if settled and less commitments, may wanna get married early.But this thing is rather psychological  than logical.

Love exist,but the concept of  Soulmate is still a question.Some people don't believe in love because they just don't love themselves enough,or they have bigger priorities and commonly say-Look I don't have time for  this thing,because I have commitments to my family.Love yourselves first.Sometimes good things fall apart , so that better things may fall together. Prioritize it.You should just give it a chance,even though it failed you many times.

We are told not to smoke or take drugs or not to take a particular dish coz you might be allergic,would not we try if we have another note or if marijuana is legal and we have not been  brainwashed by parents about  taking it.Boys are  given an option to wait and girls an option to marry soon.So by Newtons law ,it happens equal and opposite.Things happen in opposite way.If we are told as a child not to touch the red button,we touch it because we have not experienced it-Not knowing that that is a button for the bomb.Similarity is the condition of the marriage.There is no off switch.You are bound to it once done.Be sure you do it right and enjoy before going through that phase.

I personally advice to enjoy your life.BE OUT THERE.Do things that make you happy and it's ok to be happy.Switch Off your brain and make decisions with your heart once a while.Learn to influence others through your life.Do differently and make a difference.

Enjoy your life:

• SMOKE & DRINKS
• TRAVEL TO AN UNKNOWN PLACE ALONE
• BE AN ALPHA PERSON
• VISIT A FIFA MATCH
• BUILT A HOME FOR THE POOR
• PLANT 100 TREE
• PARTY
• MAKE A CHILD HAPPY BY BUYING HIM WHAT HE WANT
• MEET YOUR ROLE MODEL
• GO TO OLYMPIC GAME
• MAKE ADVENTURES-PARAGLIDING,SKYDIVING,HOT AIR BALOON
• LEARN TO COOK A SIGNATURE DISH
• MAKE A BUCKET LIST

    But Also

• INVEST IN YOURSELF
• HAVE A STABLE EXPERIENCED JOB
• SAVE MONEY
• RESEARCH YOUR FAMILY TREE

Soulmate ,is it a fiction?Or only the one we watch in films?I probably think so.Splitsvilla is an MTV show,where celebs/contestants boys and girls meet and make a connection,where many even fell love on the set.But none ever had succeeded.Because it just shifts.In season 10 of splitsvilla,they even had an ideal match-Many contestants were researched and put to rest and found out about their matches.Many passed,but still even after finding the matches by a series of psychological behaviors and algorithm,and applying it, they have not settled or are still together for even 1 year.The only exception is Prince Narula &Yuvika and  Pearly Maaney&Sreenish who found true love.Both are engaged presently.

Soulmate is just a fiction and seen only in movies like serentipity.I believe in love.But who makes it true?Time-never!!

True love do not have the same understandings,they just need to know the understand of the differences.True love don't have a need to impress,no need for romance.I am not saying that it is not required,But its value is negligible.There won't be any sensations in the stomach,nor any release of chemical reactions in the brain.You are satisfied the way you are with her.You are her problem and she is yours.There is no she,just we.If you are hiding your emotions and he/she can still see your pain..That is true love.

It can be found in your mom.And she is the soulmate,and you infact are spending your whole life with her.That's why a girl see a Dad in a guy and boy see a Mom.I believe in love,but can that be changed?Today you find her attractive and tomorrow you can find another 'her'attractive coz human mind change.You don't find her attractive and you still don't care and infact you find the other one too hot and you still don't care because that is not important because your hunger is already gone.You are happy just the way things are.You can stay with that person for all eternity,that's true love.Sensation comes and go-And the left over emotion is still strong that's true love.There is no two,just one.What's true love is: even if they don't wanna see and are separated,they still won't be.In marriage i mentioned about the off switch,in true love too the switch never goes off.Even if they want ,they still can't.Because that's what true love is.

It just happens,it is not by design ,or pre-written in your destiny and it just can't be switched off as the famous quote-Till death brings us apart.

,Till the end of our days and beyond.